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Of Chocolates and Love

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NOTE: I’m posting another Life Series as my second Fireworks Video Tutorial is taking forever to upload.
For those who know me, they’d attest that I dont have a sweettooth. Its not like I hate sweets or anything, I just dont like eating them. Makes my throat itchy. But a couple of days back, I had a strange urge to eat something sweet… So I grabbed (more like stole) a bar of Hersheys from my sisters cabinet and ate it like crazy. It wasnt bad…hmmm… not bad at all…creamy, lush, very satisfying… cant quite put it, but I get a strange warm feeling in my head. As my best friend would put it after I told him the incident, ‘Hmmm… that could only mean one thing… it’s the end of the world as we know it.’ I laughed… Probably its the end of me… I laughed again… this time I forced it. Funny how some people would say that chocolate is the food of the soul… I usually scoff at them… ‘Yeah, yeah and ice cream is the food of the genitals!’ Chocolate, I would stress, is not the food of the soul, IT’S LOVE! Love is the food of the soul. Alright, Im a bit harsh, suppose they are correct? What if we are both correct? OMFG! Does that mean that my soul is hungry? Hungry for love, so I had to quench its hunger with the closest thing at hand — a bar of chocolate!? Nah… I’m thinking that I am feeding my soul too much love.. that it started to develop Anorexia Nervosa for fear of being obesed. An obesed soul, now thats a site. Is that why I easily fall out of love lately? I am a lonely, loveless being with a soul that has Anorexia Nervosa! What could be worst? Well atleast I can still sing.. anyway, music is the language of the soul, so I think Im going to sing “Creep” now. *Wishes that my soul is listening instead of force-barfing* You out there.. stop eating too much chocolate…they are not love, you know. (If you are obese, do not smile, that was an insult. IF you are not obese, smile, that was a compliment.)
N.B. This is just a rambling of one of my personalities. He seems to assume that love comes from outside and not from within. Pathetic fool. *Runs off to get (i.e. steal) another chocolate bar*

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Read more | Comments (1) | June 17th, 2008

On Receiving Compliments

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It shocked me to discover that a very good friend of mine doesn’t know how to receive compliments. He doesn’t even know how to react to compliments. I probed. I discovered that he feels uncomfortable being complimented. I asked why. He said that he doesn’t want to be seen as someone who is being arrogant. Interesting, I noted. I told him that it’s really simple to accept compliments. Take me for example, I usually put on my best smile, and say two words. Just two words: “I know.”
To which he promptly laughed. I told him I wasn’t joking. “I know you are not joking. But only you can pull that off.” Well it was a bit straightforward, and yes, it might, just might be misconstrued as arrogance. Perhaps that’s the reason I don’t make new friends anymore. In any case, I told him that he can just graciously accept the compliment by saying “Thank you.” And that’s it. Accepting compliments graciously is the most appropriate way of accepting a compliment. You appreciate them acknowledging your talents and at the same time reinforce to yourself that you deserve a pat in the back for a job well done. Accepting compliments graciously is an indication of having pride in what we do and knowing that, yes, I have done an excellent job. Having that kind of pride shows through the way we handle ourselves. People will sense this and acknowledge it. We feel proud for our achievements and talents WITHOUT the need to broadcast them to everyone or the need to FISH for compliments, because people will recognize this.
And you have to understand that giving out compliments is not that easy. I personally don’t give out compliments that easily until I feel that they deserve them. That being said, how would it feel to the person who just complimented you if you decline his compliment? What kind of self-image are you projecting? Wouldn’t it be easier if you just accepted the compliment graciously?
Now, this friend of mine told me that some people might drop a compliment maliciously - not in the same spirit of recognition and acknowledgement. In that case, “thank you”, is still appropriate. You thank that person for letting you know what kind of person he is. More so, gratitude still applies because he just taught you a valuable lesson: What to do to lose a friend. And, as always, don’t forget to flash that winning smile of yours.

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Read more | Comments (1) | May 29th, 2008

On Moving on

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NOTE: A break. Everyone needs one.

It just struck me at how long i have been trying to hold on to a memory that sometimes i feel didn’t really happen. Perhaps one of those fleeting instances where I thought I heard something that I wanted to hear. (Do understand that I was drinking then, so i must be imagining things). We do stupid things in life - we make mistakes, and yes they are stupid… but they are our stupid mistakes to make. We choose to make them because we feel like doing them… we might ask for advices, but it’s still ours to make… We make them, because we need to know something… and in knowing comes the process of learning. Each of us are here now, to teach each other (more often, without us even knowing it). Whether we learn or not, doesn’t matter, cos we will never know. What’s frightening is that we will keep on making the same mistakes over and over and over.. ad infinitum, until we learn from it. And sometimes, the very friends that make us realize those stupid decisions we make usually end up being fried by us. Read the rest of this entry »

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